Buy/Sell/Trade Forum

Mike I can speak from first hand experience. You matter, life matters. Seek help when needed. We are all your friends regardless of faces, interactions or anything else. After my father died I ended up having a true mental break in a clients basement due to depression and anxiety. After 2 months of 1 or 2 hours of sleep and just quitting a to 2 packs of cigarettes a day habit I failed. If it were not for those clients, my wife and my doctor I would not be here. They saved me that day and from the point I got better so today I stand firm in the belief that mental health outweighs everything. Its not a bad thing to seek help but a good thing. Vroomed and/or the other reply are correct it can be as easy as a phone call. This goes for all of you out there. Alot of us use THIS hobby as our therapy dog (myself included) and that is why we are here to help one another. It has been an interesting and uphill battle for me for 6 long years and I'm still walking my road to recovery, ask a few who know me, it truly has been a parade of WTH for me. LOL  ................ Good Luck Mike and reach out to ANY of us if you need to.

Take care Mike, your health is way more important than any cards can be, best of luck!

Hang in there Mike! There are resources wherever you may be. You aren't alone either....many of us have been in similar positions and it helps to talk with those who can relate on some level. I've learned many tricks and tools for dealing with my struggles. Happy to share if needed.

First post here (n00b member), but your post really resonates with me too, Mike.  As a freelance musician with a corporate day job, sometimes there are weeks I'm only home one or two nights depending on what my rehearsal and performance schedule looks like (like this week for example), and on those nights sometimes I don't feel like pulling cards.  It bugs me too that people are waiting on me, but I still solicit more trades even when I'm already backed up on deals (again, like this week for example).  A couple of nights ago, I unfollowed almost all of the card groups I'm in on FB just so I quit seeing it and FOMO'ing.  I do hope you can take some comfort in the words that everyone else has offered and the knowledge that you're not alone in this.  Best wishes.

also a newbie here,but just wanted to say I'm thankful for your bravery to share your struggles here. echoing many of the other commenters, and know it's not easy to admit when we might need help or just to talk with someone to sort out everything that's going on in our lives,or even just in our heads-take care!

You just do you bud. I too keep people waiting longer then I'd like. But hey life happens. Most guys understand this. Don't stress bro 

We dont have a trade going but i too was there about 2 years ago and it took me a while to snap out of it. I prefty much shut down all i did was work and people i worked with thought i was stuck up and didnt give a darn especially when i came over to this new job i got.  I wound up moving and getting away from people altogether.  Thankfully my wife and 3 kids pulled be out of my depression and stood by my side.  (Too much death and life changing moments got me where i was) today i still have my tomes and my co workers found out what i was going through and gave me soace and time i needed to heal

depression happens, and we all understand that, so thanks for putting it out there honestly, and daring to expose what we as macho men are taught to hold inside, and deal  with silently

I am not a person that has serious depression.  So I do not know what you are going through exactly, as others here are writing, but I do have regular episodes of melancholy, where I look at my life and say: how did I get here? If I had only gone down a different road,  If I had made better decisions.  Regrets.  And then I remind myself, there are no do overs, make the best of it going forward.

Having said that, this is a hobby, and it's supposed to be fun.  Sometimes I make trades, and don't pull cards before accepting the trade, or don't check the condition, and then I notice a messed up corner, or can't find a card.  I get down on myself when I do that, and the hobby is less fun, and I think I should get out of the trading business.   So, I know what you mean by the hobby contributing to your situation.

When that happens to me, I take a break for a couple of days.  I take a deep breath.  And I remember the fun days of the hobby.  I remember that I had a good day last week, and part of what made it a good day was making a good trade, or having a good mail day.

Take care of yourself.