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So I have a trade with both partners marked as unfinished. We both marked it unfinished on January 3rd. The member was not able to find 3 of the 4 cards and started saying they would send replacements. But I was not interested in those at the time and I had not agreed on them. So we marked it unfinished. Today they said I need to complete it because they are “tired” or seeing it in their unfinished? Then they stated I was being lazy and difficult for not doing what they said and I was just doing it normally. Pretty weird for somebody with 300+ feedback.

I think your fine here. Let them go to the Admin if they want. I mean its always fun when someone tells on themselves. Beyond that this seems like bullying behavior and I don't think that is ok. You are right and they are wrong. 

Thanks, I just don’t understand how they are tired of seeing it if it’s in unfinished. And it’s not like I could magically make it disappear like they’re trying to make me do.

In the mean time... thanks for letting us read that, the phrase "I'm tired of seeing it" in regards to an unfinished trade made me laugh. I hope all of our lives are so packed with stress that this is the thing that makes us tired! Personally, I would just not look at it anymore but that's just me.

well it will magically disappear in the allotted 60 days.

To be clear. The two sides haven't reached an agreement on how to handle the 3 or 4 missing cards yet. Is that correct? I would think that should be the first thing to close out. Has either side sent anything?

I requested to just not go through with the trade since I was looking to get those cards.

Thats what I thought at first.

With no cards exchanged I think I would work with the member on completing the trade and then deleting and adding the cards manually to close it out. I'm not sure how many cards were involved so I don't know how much work that would be.

If there were cards you specifically wanted in the transaction and despite having them listed as FS/FT a member can't find 3/4 of them, I believe you are perfectly within your rights to withdraw/move to unfinished.

I don't think there is an requirement to proceed with the transaction for one card, or three substitute cards you don't want.

I'm all for making things work for people  but it sounds like you have got short shrift in the transaction so far, so you don't have to go out of your way to continue.

As for the unfinished transaction to disappear, more than half the time has elapsed already, so I guess if reducing the time it stays in unfinished by a couple of weeks is a priority to the other member reaching out to Admin would be the best/only option.